by nandini sharma
The world demands that we love ourselves. But for Selena Gomez, the secret to her well-being was learning the exact opposite.
We're told to push away negative feelings. To be positive. But for years, fighting her own mind left her feeling broken and lost.
After years of struggle, she found a different path. It's not about loving yourself. It's about accepting the part of you that doesn't feel okay.
Through therapy, she learned a powerful skill: Radical Acceptance. It’s the art of acknowledging her dark thoughts without judgment or shame.
"I remind myself that I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for the psychotic break, if it wasn't for my lupus, if it wasn't for my diagnosis."
The science behind it is simple: Fighting what's real drains your energy. Accepting it frees you to heal and move forward.
This is the key to her freedom from anxiety, public scrutiny, and a world that constantly tells us who we should be.
Your first step is simple: When a bad thought or feeling arrives, don’t fight it. Just acknowledge it and say, “I see you. And that’s okay.”